I would like to suggest the following four levels of marriage ceremonies for those of us who are New Age worldwide–all of these are a statement of monogamy and a request that neither party be flirted with by outside parties:
1. Wedding Ceremony: a promise of multiple decades, the number unspecified; dress will be white, off-white, silver, or cream; includes ring exchange ceremonies of engagement ring and wedding bands, with daily wearing of bands in public mandatory
2. Commitment Ceremony: a promise of multiple decades, the number unspecified; dress will be pink, gold, or a combination of both; includes ring exchange ceremonies of promise ring and promise bands for both bride and groom, with daily wearing of bands in public mandatory
3. Dating Ceremony (Formal Dating Ceremony): a promise of less than two complete decades; dress will be any shade of purple, from light to dark; includes ring exchange ceremony of promise bands for both bride and groom, with daily wearing of bands in public mandatory
4. Informal Dating Ceremony: a promise of three years; dress will be any other color or any of the above colors mixed together; ring exchange ceremony and daily wearing of ring or bands will be optional. Green would probably be the best color for this dress because of its versatility of mood and expression.
A permanent marriage ceremony or one that is the equivalent of a promise of multiple lifetimes needs to be a secret ceremony, and only the most highly spiritually-initiated should be present with the couple. A blue dress is preferred for this ceremony–in any shade, or in a mix of blues, or in blue mixed with any other colors. The dress can be patterned or adorned in any way, and made of any materials, with any cut and shape.
Renewal of vows ceremonies should involve a new dress of the same color and new rings, if they are a repeat ceremony of a marriage ceremony the couple already had. The New Age community will generally have a renewal of vows ceremony every ten to thirty years, according to each couple’s romantic preference.
Another ceremony that can be considered for couples that are not New Age and want to be monogamous is an “off-the-market ceremony” which just says that neither party is available to date anyone else. The ceremony should be fun, and the dress should be cheery and sunny in yellow or orange. New Age couples will tend to not want to have sex unless they are ready for a three-year monogamous commitment, and so will opt for starting with the Informal Dating Ceremony.
The New Age community prefers to not cohabitate with ANYONE for any reason, because of our very sensitive spiritual energy bodies (auras). However, married couples can have separate dwellings in the same city, neighborhood, or block, and sleep over at each other’s places as often as they are both comfortable with. In general, New Age couples like to sleep in separate rooms, because sleep is profoundly healing for us.
Lilly Lekhan, Poet and Founder of The Sweetest Art List